Secondhand Therapy

I Don’t Want Help! What Even is Growth? | #089

This episode ends up going very deep... Michael’s patience hits a breaking point after being on hold for 4 hours—then his girlfriend tries to help, and it only makes things worse. Lou and Michael unpack why support can sometimes feel like control, and how some conversations trigger defensiveness or feel like interrogation. They dive into the tension between processing emotions vs. taking action, explore their very different approaches to therapy, and debate what real growth actually looks like. The episode takes a deeper turn as they confront generational trauma, emotional triggers, and what it takes to break toxic family cycles.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Replay - Little Boy on the Beach Gave Me a Panic Attack

Michael unpacks a vivid dream that stirred up old wounds, leading to a raw conversation about how he’s really processed his grief. He and Louie dive into what “showing emotion” actually means—especially for men—and why crying in front of people feels impossible. Louie opens up about a therapy exercise that triggered a full-blown panic attack, and the episode takes a deeper turn as they both reflect on their childhoods and how it shaped them.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Read Receipts & The Panic Spiral of “I Miss You” | #088

Louie’s off keto and melting down over Cinnamon Toast Crunch, but it quickly becomes clear this episode isn’t really about cereal. What starts as a goofy check-in turns into a full-blown emotional audit — from the weight of unsaid feelings to the desperate scramble to fix something you maybe just made worse. The guys unravel the difference between:"How can I talk to you better?" vs. "What can we do differently?"Selfless care vs. reputation managementGuilt-driven repair vs. genuine accountabilityThey dissect what it means to feel dismissed, how panic can hijack your intention, and why changing how you speak to someone isn’t always love — sometimes it’s self-erasure. It’s funny, it’s chaotic, and Also featuring:– “You hit me with a baseball!”– Weaponized ‘I miss you’s– A fake breakup that feels a little too real– Love on the spectrum– And Michael finally realizing he’s never actually thought before speaking 🙃Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105

Fake Growth. Real Talk. | #087

This is probably our most uncomfortable conversation so far... This week, we dive into the messy beauty of personal growth, family trauma, and the illusion of progress. Michael spirals into thoughts about mortality and uncovers patterns passed down through his family—aka the “family curse.” He opens up about feeling stuck, avoiding discomfort, and calling it self-improvement. Louie isn’t having it. He calls out the loopholes, the fake growth, and the safety blanket of the comfort zone. There’s tension. There’s truth. There’s laughter in between the heavy stuff.If you’ve ever felt stuck, lied to yourself in the name of growth, or wondered if your trauma is inherited—this one’s for you. mental health, therapy, self-awareness, generational trauma, comfort zone, vulnerability, personal development, funny therapy podcastSupport the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105mental health, therapy, self-awareness, generational trauma, comfort zone, vulnerability, personal development, funny therapy podcast

I Don’t Feel Connected to my Mother | #086

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Grief (Part II) / Music Triggers & Healing Over Time When the World Won’t Stop | #085

Louie opens up about how music can unexpectedly trigger waves of grief — and reflects on the strangely beautiful reality that the world keeps moving after someone dies. Michael shares how his own experience of loss has shifted over time, revealing how grief evolves and reshapes our sense of self. Together, they explore the many forms grief can take — from deep sorrow to unexpected moments of connection and hope — and how it intersects with our mental health. Whether you're grieving a loved one, a relationship, or a version of yourself, this conversation offers comfort, perspective, and a reminder that you're not alone.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448

Therapy Intake Questions, ADHD Struggles, and Starting with a New Therapist | #084

Social media boundaries in therapy, ADHD shutdowns, and how productivity shame messes with your self-worth.Starting therapy with someone new can feel… awkward. Louie shares about his first session with a new therapist, and the surprising comment he received on Instagram that sparked a deeper conversation. Should therapists follow you on social media? Meanwhile, Michael opens up about his ongoing struggles with ADHD, productivity shame, and what it’s like to emotionally shut down when tasks pile up. In this episode, we unpack:Awkward first sessions with new therapistsShould your therapist follow your Instagram?Therapy intake forms: too much too soon?ADHD, executive dysfunction, and self-worthThe emotional weight of productivity cultureIf you've ever questioned your therapist, your brain, or your to-do list — this one's for you.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448

Sitting in Discomfort: How Therapy Is Changing Our Relationships | #083

Louie opens up about a vulnerable conversation with his girlfriend that challenged their relationship — all through the lens of parts work therapy. He shares how sitting with discomfort, rather than avoiding it, is transforming the way he shows up in partnership. Michael reflects on his own experience with parts work, revealing emotional memories connected to his mother — and how facing discomfort in therapy is reshaping his sense of self. This episode explores:Why discomfort in therapy can be your biggest breakthroughReal-life relationship challenges during inner workHow childhood parts show up in adult dynamicsWhether you're in therapy or curious about how emotional healing affects love, this one goes deep. New episodes weekly — follow to stay on your healing journey.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448

Can’t Commit to Monogamy | #082

Louie has bronchitis and found his therapists Instagram — and why that might be a red flag. Michael dives deep into his fear of commitment, the emotional tension around flirting in monogamous relationships, and why he struggles with being perceived as “in trouble” for noticing other women. Together, they explore the blurry line between attraction and objectification, and how abandonment issues can sabotage intimacy. A raw, honest look at modern masculinity, emotional growth, and the complexity of romantic relationships.Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448

Replay - Family Dysfunction and EMDR with Lara Beitz

Support the pod:http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://secondhandtherapypod.comFollow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypodhttp://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodhttp://instagram.com/itsloubearhttp://instagram.com/malonecomedyContact us:secondhandtherapypod@gmail.com818-850-2448